I’m sorry but this is 2013, isn’t it?
Tell me why you care so much with whom and how often another woman is getting some?
I received a query from a woman stating that she is single and currently involved with two men. She’s been with both men for a number of years but for various reasons, could not or would not commit to either. She understands that the situation may be deemed unique to those who don’t know the background story but it works for her. What upset her was that her best friend, who knows the details including how and why the two relationships began, considers her ‘promiscuous.’
In regards to the friend, though she may not agree with situation, her job as a “friend” is to support, not criticize especially when she knows the full details. More importantly, what goes on between two consenting adults or three for that matter, is nobody’s business but their own! I wonder if she were a he, if his friends would react the same way. Hell no! They’d be calling him “The Man!”
These double standards must stop.
Single women are out here holding it down; should they remain abstinent while waiting for their knights in shining armor? Oh please! As long as it’s not somebody else’s man, who cares?
Religious beliefs aside, why can’t a grown woman engage in a sexual relationship without the benefit of marriage or commitment or direction? I find that, though we have evolved in so many areas, we are still holding on to these archaic beliefs when it comes to sexuality. No wonder we have yet to break through the glass ceiling. Free your mind people because it’s just not that serious.
Please share your post-Carnival stories, comments, dilemmas, topics and even ask me your relationship questions by sending me an email to TG@jayblessed.com and we’ll figure it out together and I’ll even answer your questions right here in my “ASK TG” section. I look forward to hearing from you.
Until then, ponder this and check out my soundtrack: “The emotional, sexual, and psychological stereotyping of females begins when the doctor says: ‘It’s a girl.’” ~Shirley Chisholm